Stalked and Terrorized by Psychopath

I am terrified. I can’t post or say anything in my defense because these gang stalking psychopaths are technologically savvy enough to breach my network security, infecting all my devices, including phones. And that’s only for starters. Just sending this anonymously is a risk.

I’ve been subjected to an effective smear campaign such that everybody, including my family and the police, writes me off as paranoid just for hinting at the troubles. (The narc/cluster Bs’ goal is my suicide or, second best, institutionalization.) The police keep getting it wrong; when I report as g to the victim of burglaries or assaults, I’ve ended up half the time with involuntary admissions to the mental ward. Meanwhile, the narcs/cluster Bs admit to me what they’re doing, but they use fake persona on social media and other ephemeral media. I can’t get proof collected before they burglarize my house and take the files.

I’ve was too kind, perhaps, when it first happened. I didn’t understand and a couple of them, who knew each other it turns out, developed intimate relationships with me. But, now, this war on me seems easy for them and a lifelong sentence for me. I’m alone now. Based on sequential betrayals by people later determined to be part of the scheme, I know I can’t trust anyone I meet not to have been placed as a set-up to harm me further. It’s bullying on steroids.

With all the stories and songs on the topic in popular media, you’d think bullying has become a pervasive activity. The compassionate people left in the world need to take notice and try to help one another. Victims don’t do much because any misstep can lead to terrible abuse or worse. We can’t protect ourselves except by being dutifully quiet. Others seem to believe first the lies of these predators. It is Hell and I’m in it while these tormentors seem to be enjoying a hunters’ paradise.

In the past, I wasn’t paranoid in the least. But it is getting harder not to be suspicious and avoidant. It is so bad, I sometimes wonder how many purported victims’ sites and even victims are imposters.

I ask myself, why would anybody bother to plot such awful things. I’ve decided the main answer is, “control.” There is this insatiable quest by the disordered for absolute and total control. They’ve told me as much through leaving reading materials because they get a kick out of me knowing about and even appreciating the extent they’ll go to satiate specific desires.

When did this become the play zone of the disordered, and how and when can we start effectively resisting? Everyone needs to start thinking along those lines or I fear for the whole lot of us who have ordinary, I think, compassion.

Parental Poisoning Psychopath

It is august of 2020. I was reading online and realized wow this is my story. Tons of survivors talk to me about how they survived a parent trying to end their life, with making it look like an accident or leaving them abandoned in places where they could be kidnapped, and others by poisoning.

This forum is mostly people dealing with more spousal psychopaths and not had the lifelong obsessions of the parent to target them for life. I was happy to see that this page though its home and is very direct of the plans the smear campign is.

The reason the smear campaign takes place is that it is so effective and the video that I just watched about it is amazing it is spot on.

Over the last few months, I realized that of course, not the whole police force is psychopaths I did not want the comment. I left to make it look like that and I hope it does not appear that way.

There is an article or two or one hundred that shows that the top ten jobs for psychopaths and also law enforcement is contained with psychopathic and narcissistic traits. It is well documented. It is not just my opinion, and if you have a psychopathic obsessed parent that wants you destroyed and falsely arrested and whatnot, then you pair that up with any other psychopath, especially that person with the abusive talents of using that pen to distort reality for the victim.

You could be the victim. This is an attempt on your life and here you are dealing with the one person that is supposed to be investigating and now he goes along with the false narrative.

I also realize that she found one person that was so afraid of her targeting him that in the hospital instead of reporting the poisoning he aided her by calling the police and telling them not to come and investigate that. In fact, he told them what pat wanted them to think.

So you have the officers that want to investigate and do the right thing and what she found in the hospital was someone so afraid of her admitting the poisoning that he did whatever she said for him to do.

You also mention that in your video too. I could tell how he ran out of the room and she went running behind him after confessing – no bragging – over and over how she did it,

I swore to myself him being a mandated reporter that he had to by law or ethics report that, and of course, don’t ever underestimate the fear that some men have of psychopathic females. He was older than her and frail and maybe she reminded him of a psychopathic female he had inside his own family but he did her bidding he was her puppet.

The sad thing for me and my child is that the intervention, the breaking of the decades of abuse by the psychopath would have ended that day.

There is no way, if this doctor admitted that she confessed to poisoning even if she tried spinning it to make herself out to be some kind of hero, it’s still a crime to poison someone so they end up in the hospital.

First, she tried saying it was suicide and when she was caught in so many lies she flipped it quickly like a good psychopath into well I drugged her but I did it on purpose to force her into the hospital so she can be committed. They won’t deny they did this or said this but they spin it to be the hero in the story.

You have my mother down pat, to a tee. Yes, and her name is pat. I call her Psycho-Pat. She is dangerous to me and anyone she makes her target. Her favorite targets are the females in the family including her own mother and myself and my daughter. She likes it, if she can separate us by using sick false narratives and lies, she can be killing two birds with one stone.

The sick thing is that she would have most likely ended my child’s life by now had she gotten her way with me. She has a taste for killing over how she used to kill my pets. She graduated to people.

She tried to kill me, and had she won and got away with it, she would have had more of a taste and would have gone after my child. Only after she was done destroying her heart and mind and ripping her soul apart by getting rid of me.

The attitude she portrays about me as is that I am not good to my child. When in fact the one that is the abuser is her. She projects her garbage onto me. Literally, she can bring up memories of things she did to me as a child at the same age and project that memory onto me, then says I did those things.

I have not ever even raised my voice to my child. I see no reason needed to ever hit a child. Yet pat did that to me regularly. She showed her hatred of females with her fists every day. Imagine having that scumbag trying to project her grotesque spirit and soul onto someone that is the exact opposite and people are believing her lies.

They are viewing her as the opposite of what she is, and they are viewing me as the opposite of what I really am. The punishment and hatred that she gets others to feel about me when she tells her stories of the abuse she did to me as a child. The hatred they wish I would be dead and not care who kills me. All these things really should be turned around onto her. That hate should be put back onto her. Since she is talking about her own memories of her being an abuser.

Those stories have nothing to do with my child those are memories that she is reliving from decades ago before my child was born before I could even have children. As a virgin child, she is making up these things as If I did them to my child and it’s her own memories she is discussing of herself.

One time, she tried getting my husband to have people deny me being allowed to speak to her, and she gave him a story to write down. I read this and said, “she did this to me I remember when she did this to me!” So, she is reliving a part of her life that she is remembering in vivid detail.

You can see how she loves thinking about those days. She lives for abusing children. She is after my little girl. She wanted me out of the way so she would be allowed to torment and abuse my own child.

She is dangerous and should be locked up for the rest of her life.

If they can get decades for poisoning attempted murder, I want her to go away for the maximum sentence, and I want more than ever to get a prosecutor or a detective that is so sick of the person that she is and how she manipulated and lied to police to do her bidding and do her dirty work.

I want people to hate her so much for how she ruined the lives of everyone she comes in contact with.

The police have her hook line and sinker.

I got her to confess in ten minutes. Why would a seasoned detective have a hard time getting her to confess to this crime? She was bragging.

This doctor I know says that there are some police officers who most likely became afraid of her. If they are not some of the abusers that end up getting hired and know you are the victim and want to keep you in the victim status. I think the rest of them don’t want to become the target of the psychopath either.

It is a life long obsession for my mother to end my life since I was her victim and I know the worst of her. I know the true her. Also, my brother does, and he would be an excellent witness in court to how crazy she is, but he was taught to be her fists as I grew older, and I could speak the hitting had to be transferred from her to someone else.

Anytime no one is abusive to me or my life is soaring and becoming better and better is when I get targeted by her the worse. The more support and the more help I seem to be getting the more outrageous and extreme the lying and abuse get.

The more insane the stories become and the more people she needs to gather to her side against me.

The downfall I feel that made the most abusive time in my life even compared to my childhood I have experienced more abuse from her living five states away since she has been directing my husband in what to do, what to say, how to poison me, when to poison me, what lies to tell the police, etc.

I have reports where the officer said the husband was on the phone with the mother in law, so I spoke to her and she said about the daughter “she’s mentally ill and we should commit her.”

Had I been told this the day she said this, I could have gotten proof from a psychiatrist that I have nothing wrong along those lines and the proof could have allowed me to press charges of slander and also get a protective order so she has to have no contact with me or anyone in my life or contact with any law enforcement.

She is not involved in my life for a reason. This also is very true what you said in the video and the page you wrote where they push who they are and project who they are onto the victim.

Since she is the one that needs to be locked up and committed they push that onto the victim.

The reality of life is, I am the calmest, level-headed, intelligent, caring, always contributing to society, helping others, and faithful to my church. I also used to help autistic kids, and I was a mental health case manager. I went to college when I had no contact with them for decades.

They came back into my life, not through me but through my husband, so they both were working alongside each other with her teaching him all her tricks on how to be the best psychopath that he could be.

They never would have wanted to see me destroyed or homeless before he met her. He would not have wanted to destroy his own life, his own credit, his own child, his own job, or his own home had he not been associated with her. He followed her lead, hook line and sinker, because like the devil she promised him great power and to be the “winner” and to completely dominate me.

That is what he wanted, total domination and destruction, and she gave him a new way to live. He loved learning how to destroy the mother of his child.

I was struggling, watching my husband become someone I did not know. I felt him hurting my child to get to me was the last straw, and I asked him to move out. I got a protective order and that is when the murder attempt happened. He was out of the house.

I had no idea they had been on the phone planning things together for years. I had no idea parents were even a threat to me. I had not been warned by the police of all the insane smearing and lies of my character was going on behind my back or I could have gotten a protective order once I proved she is calling them up or telling the police pure unadulterated lies about me.

The fact I was in the dark kept them in more power and the fact that the Fairfax police unfortunately only solve less than three percent of violent crimes committed where the rate of the country is about 21 percent. So compared to the rest of the country (this is from a book on Fairfax county police that I purchased on amazon that has all sorts of statistics). This county has the worst solving of violent crimes around. I am sure that almost all of the murders that are said to be suicides are going passed off as suicides since there are never any investigating.

In my case alone, I have had multiple times that the police could have found out they were being taken down a line of being hooked into following the lead of the psychopath.

When I got this protective order on my husband, this is the time you will most likely be killed or seriously harmed. In my case, I have so many motives for murdering me, yet nothing would have been investigated. I know that my case would not have been looked into and it was already written up as a suicide attempt, but they are adding in that I admitted it, It is so ridiculous since the entire hospital has me down as being unable to speak for literally days.

I was inside the hospital for longer than a week. This shows that this was not, as they were saying, I was sitting up, talking, I was fine, which is how they made it seem.

I could not make a sentence and I was attacked in the back of the ambulance, beaten up by the ambulance man over the 13 different lies she told about me.

Last year, I had not seen the report the ambulance guy wrote down. He wrote down four extra stories she gave to him, all of which could have been questioned and shown as pure lies by pat. They were writing down lies they more than likely knew were lies, and still he attacked me while I was crying. I was crying since I realized; my gosh my own mother tried killing me and here I am I did not die. But I could not speak my mind. I could not talk and no one would hand me a pencil or pen to try to write something for them. No one would help me tell them what I was trying to say.

The entire smearing of your character has such a profound effect on how others view you. Not one single person said she is trying to tell us something, let’s hand her a pen. I also was in and out of passing out until once I was at the hospital and felt safe and realized no one is going to care.

I let myself fall back out into the darkness. I was not asleep. I could not walk, talk, or do anything but try to heal from the attempt on my life. It literally took me days to get back to walking again. The entire time in the hospital she demanded that I be committed long term to a mental hospital. This is a control issue following if she could not kill me she wanted to maintain control over my life. Also, she wanted me to be separated from my child to ruin my heart and soul. She wanted to break me down and hurt me badly she wanted nothing but to ruin my life. and she got help.

They still have not arrested her and her crimes have continued on and on. I am writing over this and how things went down will be more in detail.

I have taken the steps to gather the reports and the lies, the twisted manipulations that both pat and her lackeys conjured up. And I am going forth to law enforcement, to bring it forward to them.

Am I afraid and concerned I will be shunned out of the place?

Absolutely. That is why I have gathered so much evidence and proof. I also have done some research and I realized only half of the police force are the 40-50 percent of domestic violence abusers (all Cluster B disordered are abusive to victims) so we have a 50 -50 chance if we call for help that

1. if we get one of the 50 percenters, we can be targets and be lied about more for the psychopath

2. the psychopath will just con and lie and control the minds of the police to take up their side

Naturally, they have dozens of false reports that the psychopath knows she gave over the phone repeatedly over the years as (false) proof of the victims “badness.”

3. the officer is uninformed and uneducated and or lazy and just wants to “fit in” and go “along with the crowd” and “not rock the boat” by doing some real investigating, or

4. you get an excellent officer, those 20 percenters that hate being lied to. They hate criminals. They hate others that try to destroy innocent lives and they want the truth to be told and arrest the hell out of that psychopath.

I realized after reading this that, yes, there are so many variables on why they would help lie on the report. I used to think they knew they were writing down lies about myself for years but now that I look, they are told just to document.

A book on amazon about this particular police force, and most in this area, they document and investigate nothing.

100 percent of the character assassinating comments by psychopathic pat could have been investigated and she should have been arrested and charged with multiple counts of the lying to police, whatever charge that is.

Two times she said that I had been arrested on such and such a week or some time ago, and they didn’t even look up their own records to see that the arrest was not even real. She made it up out of thin air to transmit hatred, distrust, and fake proof of my badness, and the reason that she should be believed and helped, and I should be lied about.

There is not one single doubt the report of the attempt on my life is a total lie since the hospital records discount the report in full. But I also am aware now, the doctor she had helping her lied for her to the police officer on the phone. When they called up to see if they needed to investigate this man, the doctor said to them, no don’t worry she sat up talking she was fine. And this man also had heard her confess over and over in the hospital 20 times and ran out of the room afraid of her. I think he did not want to become a target of her wrath and was afraid of her and did anything she said out of fear.

He even took an arrest that never happened and expounded on that arrest to perpetuate the hatred towards me so that anyone I told in the hospital that she admitted to the poisoning would care less.

That is what happens; they smear your character so badly that even if someone believed that they tried ending your life you would be viewed as being unworthy of being helped. Its a two-edged sword.

I hope to come back and give a report that she was arrested and jailed and that there were decent detectives and prosecutors that wanted to help and things went well for me. That is what I am praying and hoping for.

Please send good vibes my way that things will turn out legally, keeping her away from my life, and only arresting her is the only thing that will stop her

~Myte

I’m Not a Victim of a Psychopath

This is a great attitude to have after having encountered a predatory psychopath, as it is a healthy headspace to be in as you move forward. You have been betrayed, abused, conned, and have certainly lost any combination of precious resources, time, attention, energy, financial, mental, physical, and spiritual health, and wellness. And for what?

For the benefit of a predatory psychopath who seeks to devour the resources of others with no the slightest regard for who they are sucking the life out of, and they will do anything, I mean ANY THING, to do it.

They don’t care if your rotting carcass is left in a ditch somewhere. In fact, they might like that very much, if it couldn’t be linked back to themselves, especially if it looked like suicide. And so many of them are very skilled at making their victims contemplate suicidal thoughts.

These predatory psychopaths only have one program that they run ad infinitum:

Get Everything You Want from Anyone You Can

If you have things he or she has no interest to him or her, you may be able to keep those resources, but be forewarned that even these things, if they can be used against you, may be lost in your predatory psychopathic encounter. And if the psychopath can use these otherwise unwanted or “safe” resources to convert them into something that they do want by another con or series of con games, then you will lose those resources as well.

I have seen the full scale of predatory psychopath victims, from those who have lost a little and were instantly aware of being the “mark” of a predatory psychopath’s scheme, and they were able to stop the process early on. I have also seen people lose everything. I mean EVERY THING, and left to die, with nothing.

It would be a predatory psychopath’s preference to drain you of all your resources, destroy any integrity or relationships that you might have had in your family and the community, and leave you with no way to survive and nothing to live for.

Being a “victim” of such a villain is not a sign of weakness. Though you may resist the thought of referring to yourself as a victim, it is without a doubt, the intention of this “evil” character to fully victimize you. (I put evil in quotes because that’s how prosecutors refer to them if they are known by the system to be predatory psychopaths).

Once I became aware of my predatory psychopathic entanglement, I refused to be the “victim” and took steps to prevent him from further victimizing me. I was confident that I could create a safe and secure environment around me and keep him from doing any further damage.

I was proud of my success in doing so. I maintained a good attitude, kept on living life, maintained a high level of security around myself, and ignored anything he would try to say or do, with confidence that if he could receive no response or energy from me, he would surely just fade away.

While all psychopaths are different and this tactic might work for most of them, this one was infuriated by my ability to neutralize his efforts, and that was when he declared war on me. He spent millions of dollars to discredit and defame me, vowed to destroy me, leaving me in prison, or dead.

So, he launched his campaign. Even with his best efforts, I was resilient, consistent, and firm. Unshaken and actually began to see his efforts as entertainment, as he tried to attack me in any way he could. I saw myself as bulletproof.

That was, until he turned his attacks against my family, friends, and anyone I had any association with.

As these people came to me with their horror stories, I was unable to calm them with, “but he’s just using smoke and mirrors to intimidate and frighten you,” it offered them no relief. They did not know who he was, as I did, and they were deeply concerned, and I tried to explain, they were more offended that it was clear that this was all my fault. That I had unintentionally unleashed the beast on them.

It left me no choice but to put myself back on the front lines and take him on mano a mano.

I would never suggest that anyone attempt to take a predatory psychopath on in a full-frontal attack because, if yours is a masterful one, you, everything, and everyone you care about will suffer the consequences of the assertion of your bravery.

But I felt I had no choice.

As I re-engaged with my psychopath, he immediately stopped attacking everyone else in my circle of influence and refocused all of his efforts on me once again.

I was fortunate enough to complete the battle on top. Again, I would caution anyone to not attempt to take on a predatory psychopath.

I was blessed to be able to exit the battle with very few war wounds (some still remain) and he was forced to fake his death (which he did masterfully) and change his identity (once again).

But the good news is, while he supposed to be dead (just the idea of it gives thousands of victims a sense of peace), he can no longer directly attack me or my people without revealing that he is not dead.

So, all things work out for good.

But I would be wary about ever thinking that I, or anyone else, should take a psychopathic predator on, to teach him or her a lesson.

This has been the knee-jerk reaction of many a victim who has regretted it in the end.

The general rule of thumb is:

Do Not Engage in Combat with a Psychopath

 

Even the Police May Not Help

I was reading through this site, and after reading Case Study Psychopathic Spin, I have to say something here.

The police have a law that they can’t tell you when someone is making up lies about you. You can’t know what they say unless you know about it in the first place. They get around that by telling you you need an attorney or a subpoena to get the records.

For me, I had no idea for almost three years of the smear campaign. The police were helping him

He would wait for me to go to church in the morning and when I was gone with our daughter he would call and say I was missing and stayed out all night long. Then the police would add worse and say that I stayed out all night long every weekend. You know I have not Stayed out overnight anywhere with her alone ever. That is the crazy part.

The lies were just insane absolutely insane. The goal was him trying to get me committed or arrested and to take my child from me.

That is the scary thing is we are now hiring psychopaths to be our police officers. In my county, the murder rate of family murders is higher than any other murders. This is Fairfax County in northern Virginia.

In July if 2015 my two psychopathic parents came to see me for the first time in about ten years. They tried killing me with an overdose and tried to make it look like a suicide attempt. I didn’t die soon enough for them they waited hours and till the next day to say to my husband what should we do? He said I guess get her some help. They Called 911 and the police lied for them … the cops knew she lied and Fairfax county helped both my parents get Away so far at least with attempted homicide by making the report make it look like I was fine when they left.

What actually was real is I knew it was murder and was trying to say my mom did it – my mom did it! The words weren’t clear but they might have realized – wow – we have been helping this lady and she just tried killing her. We can’t get in trouble, let’s lie and say she was sitting up chatting away able to walk, etc.. I couldn’t say a sentence for over three days because I was in a Coma in the ICU. I wasn’t able to walk until about eight days without being held up. So yeah they lied a lot.

When we hire police that are psychopaths too, they will help the murderers get away with it.

If I would have died what is so sad is that my little girl would have thought I left her alone and Pat and Brian would have laughed about it that they got away with murder.

Since I didn’t die, let me tell you this: it isn’t over, not by a long shot.

Myte

I am Married to a Psychopath

I am not what you would call a survivor yet… my husband blindsided me, making me believe that he was Mr. Nice Guy and that we were soulmates.

I was so stupid to ignore all of the warning signs and am so angry at myself. Him, I don’t feel sorry for at all and look at him with disgust and disdain. He knows his tricks don’t wash with me anymore, so he hides from me in our rec-room, staring at the tv set every chance he gets.

He is a porn addict and masturbates everyday…prefers girls between 16-20 years old. I seem to disgust him sexually. He always seemed to have someone on the side, now that I look back.

Now things are coming out of the woodwork…nylons (not mine) underwear, tops, in the wash..which he suddenly decided to do on his own. Texts from women that he claimed he did not know

He has not been intimate with me in 8 years…blaming me of course..I never said no..he did! He was always too tired…

Things began to escalate pretty quickly as he was arrested for domestic abuse with a no contact order.

He controls every aspect of my life and especially the finances… so I got the Crown Attorney to drop the charges after 5 months…BIG MISTAKE!!! He was injured by my audacity to call the police and has punished me every day because of this.

He has shut off my landline phone for a day, the tv, smashed my laptop, thrown full beer cans and 10 lb. weights at me, bully’s me, threatens me and uses the silent treatment to abuse me further. He has isolated me…on and on.

Most recently he looked at me and said: “you are going to die soon!”

The last time the police were called they told me that unless I contributed financially to the bills/rent that he had every right to do as he pleased. I showed them my bruises, they told me that they looked old? Even with blood trickling down my arm?

I will NEVER call the police for help again! I am at a loss now…

I stay barricaded in my bedroom..avoid him… and don’t speak! I have nowhere to go as he has smeared my good name to family and friends.

I have no money, as he controls every cent.

Even so, he is NOT worth taking my own life for… I am here for the duration and hold my head up and try to stay strong with God’s help.

I do wish that Karma will come to him soon because I was a naïve, loyal wife who did everything in her power to make him happy. I don’t have any regrets this way…only the regret of ever caring for this sick psychopath!

TRUST YOUR GUT…LISTEN TO YOUR INSTINCTS AND GET THE HELL OUT… DON’T HESITATE!

Maggie HI

6 Steps to Stop a Psychopath

I set out to make a three-minute video with the basics of how to deal with a psychopath in an effort to help more people than the victims who managed to make their way into my office. Thankfully, victims of predatory psychopaths are more rare than you might think, on the other hand, they are also more common, but they are separated by social culture and geography.

I thought my video, if I could do it well enough, would be able to help people quickly identify and take proactive action to protect themselves from further being victimized by the psychopath.

I failed to achieve the three-minute target. The best I could do was ten-minutes. Here is the video:

I felt good about the final, still short, video about having given people enough tools to identify a potential psychopath and take action.

When I released this short film, I also was introduced by the idea that haters abound on the Internet, and they will attack you publicly if you try to do something meaningful, good, and from the heart. Following my initial shock of being attacked by haters and psychopaths for releasing the short, I settled into the knowing that even they are only doing the best they can, and I stopped taking their attacks personally.

My feelings were hurt, at first, just like anyone’s would be (that’s the response the haters want to initiate because they get an emotional hit, a thrill, from having an emotional impact on others, and there’s no better way to do it, than anonymously via the Internet).

By day, these might be normal factory or government workers who feel like they are not appreciated, their efforts are disregarded, they are underpaid, overworked, or even abused by management, and when they get home, lashing out at others via the World Wide Web gives them a sense of relief.

This was not the first time I was attacked via social media, so I should have seen it coming.

Since then, I have helped others who have stepped out in faith, baring their souls, recover from the onslaught of haters. It is a thing. Try not to take it personally, because it really has very little to do with you. Treat them just as you would a psychopath; do not respond or try to defend yourself, as that will only fuel their fire of viciousness.

Don’t let them drag you into their web of drama by responding to any false accusation they’ve made. I know when someone falsely accuses you, you want to defend yourself, but don’t do it. And if one of your friends reads their ridiculous accusatory post and questions you about it, don’t respond to them either. If you respond to your friend at all, just say, “You should know me better than that.”

If you do not respond, the haters don’t get the thrill, and they will move on to someone else who they can get riled up.

6 Steps to Stop a Psychopath

While you may not be able to stop a predatory psychopath from victimizing others, you can stop the victimization and/or abuse that you are suffering by following these six steps.

  1. No Contact

  2. Get Help

  3. Be Quiet

  4. Stay Strong

  5. Documentation

  6. Forgive you

No Contact

The first thing you want to do is to not have any contact with them. “No contact,” means no contact. Cut them off, insulate and isolate yourself from immediately, once you have identified your psychopath.

Don’t try to negotiate, have a rational conversation, or intervention with your psychopath, you will only be wasting your breath and they will use any attempt you make to rectify the situation with even more victimization. Don’t do it.

They will take any opportunity to draw you back in, so they can re-abuse you, and it will be worse the next go-round.

Block them. Block them from everything. Get a protection order. There is a legal piece of paper that you can get from your local courthouse which is referred to as a “No Contact” order. Once the judge signs it, and it has been served, if the psychopath contacts you, you can call 911 and have him or her arrested.

The predatory psychopath will say or do anything to pull you back in, to further victimize you, as long as you still have something, they can take from you. Once they’ve wiped you out of everything, even your will to live, you become meaningless to them, and they move on to the next victim.

Get Help

This is not the kind of thing that you are likely to navigate in a vacuum.  It is extremely advantageous to seek out assistance, being sure to get the help that you can, while you search for more qualified help. Dealing with a psychopath is tricky business, and you want someone who is experienced in this area, like a psychopath victim recovery coach. Avoid seeking help from individuals who may be connected to your psychopath in any way.

Be Quiet

Be quiet about your troubles and interactions with your psychopath. Do not speak about it to family or friends. Why? Number 1: Because the average person who has not been victimized by a psychopath will have no idea what you are going through, and the stories that you would tell – as true as they are – will be unbelievable to someone who doesn’t know any better.

Plus, from people who don’t understand, they are likely to give you really bad advice. They might say something like, “If it were me, I’d beat him with a baseball bat, and drag his bloody carcass through the streets, for all the world to see.” It’s really easy to take on a Clint Eastwood persona, when everything you learn is from TV and the movies. They have no idea what your psychopath is capable of.

Stay away from these reckless individuals, at least while you are trying to establish safety, security, and a healing environment for yourself.

Number 2: Most importantly, your psychopath will be infiltrating your family and friends, will be turning your words and actions around to make you look bad, sick, violent, or even insane. If compromised, your family, friends, and coworkers will be undercover spies for your abuser, collecting and reporting what you say and do to him or her behind your back, while they appear to be caring and compassionate to your face.

Talking about your experience must only be done in a safe environment to people you can trust.

Stay Strong

This is the time to establish your own independence. Set boundaries. Build a fortress around your heart and yourself to protect you from any further victimization. If your psychopath is not finished with you, he or she will say or do anything to woo you back into the fold so that you can be further victimized.

It will take a lot of inner strength to see this through, and you have all the strength within you that you will need. How do I know? Because if it were anyone else, they would have been dead by now.

You are stronger than you think, and you have everything you need inside you. Keep yourself safe and secure, using the resources which are available to you.

This will not be easy, but you can do it.

Documentation

My favorite is to document everything. This is really the only solid tool that you have, and I don’t care what your doctor, psychiatrist, or law enforcement has to say about it, document everything.

It may not make sense now, the Sheriff or police officer might roll their eyes as you make yet another report about someone who they think is not a bad guy. They might say under their breath, as you approach them, “Oh, jeeze, here comes that paranoid, crazy person who has it out for that poor guy again.”  Don’t let them dissuade you. Do it anyway.

You may need this data in the future, because if you find yourself having to tangle with this predator in court, where he or she might be facing prison time, he or she will do everything they can to turn it around on you, and get you thrown in prison.

In law enforcement, it is said, “If it isn’t documented, it didn’t happen.” So, document everything and report incidents as they happen, if you can.

When I was in the process of documenting everything, hundreds of things started happening to me, and I reported as many of them as I could, and in most cases, it could have never been proved that Richard did these things or had them done. So, the authorities started to think I was a nut-job, but I continued to report them as they happened when I could. I wasn’t leaving without a report number.

On one instance, I reported my break lines being cut, and there were rumors spread by Richard accusing me of doing things to myself in an effort to frame him. Don’t let these things get to you. These people can’t help it, if they don’t know any better. Keep documenting.

Every once in a while, you might accidentally end up with proof to back up one of you (previously thought of as “crazy” reports) thanks to unintentional third-party intervention (thank heaven for 7-11 surveillance videos).

Forgive You

You must have grace and compassion for yourself. Be willing to forgive yourself, first and foremost, for any part that you may have played, as you were being played by the predatory psychopath.

It’s easy to beat yourself up and blame yourself for getting into this psychopathic entanglement but be steadfast in your knowing that you were not at fault here. You were stalked and attacked by a cunning predator hell-bent on your destruction.

These six steps are not complete, by any means, but if you have fully engaged in the second step, the “get help,” this assistance will help to fill in the gaps of anything other steps you might need to take which are specific to your situation and your psychopath.

I would never devalue your being victimized by a predatory psychopath. On the contrary, your victimization is a blessing. Not in the moment, by any means. But the world needs empowered survivors or psychopathic abuse to help others, and to raise awareness in both counseling and law enforcement communities about the realities of this segment of our society.

Most people are forever wounded and afraid of ever speaking or doing anything about the subject, and who could blame them?

But you may be one of those who were called to fight the good fight, and help others who need someone who knows what they are going through.

You, and only you, could be hugely supportive to someone who is feeling as though they are drowning in psychopathic trauma, because you know what it’s like. You’ve been there, and you’ve come out on the other side of it. This can give someone else who is suffering or suicidal tremendous hope.

In this way, your psychopathic experience could be considered a “gift” one day, as you go on to live a better life, your best life, and even help to make the world a better place.

You might even like to become a Certified Psychopath Victim Recovery Coach.

David M Masters

I’ve been coaching and training my whole life, since high school, and I didn’t really think there were bad people out there. I was very shocked when the universe threw me into a situation where I was face to face with a psychopath. As much as I hate to go there, I heard law enforcement, judges, attorneys, and prosecutors saying that these people are actually defined as being “evil.”

I don’t know if I necessarily agree with that, but maybe, the fact that they have no conscience, some people say, “They have no soul,” maybe they are. You wouldn’t question someone’s being “evil” in the extreme. We’ve heard stories about people who have abducted people, cut them up, and put them in the freezer. That would definitely be an extreme and we would consider that person as being evil.

Most victims of psychopaths don’t even know they’re a victim of a psychopath until it’s too late. Because these are very charming individuals, they can really get under your skin. They are the people that we love on the one hand, until they have shown their true colors, and then, it’s debilitating.

Unfortunately, there is not a lot of good training out there for counselors and therapists. Before twenty years ago, if you came into my office, you’d have been in the same boat. Back in the day, if you came into my office and said, “I’m being attacked by a psychopath!” I would respond with, “Oh, really? Let’s sit down and talk about this.”

I’d lead with questions, like, “Why do you think this person is a psychopath?” and, “Why do you feel like you’re being attacked?” You know the routine, right? Because it was the furthest thing from my mind, that there were really people out there like that. As if it’s obviously a misconception of some kind.

And especially if someone said they were married to one, in business with someone, or related to one, like my brother, my aunt, my uncle.

How could that even be?

I don’t live in a world like that. In my world, which revolves around the people I love, like my kids. I have a son who is a cybersecurity specialist, a daughter who is an actress, who was just in two movies which were released back to back, Ecco and Friday the 13th Vengeance. (I know, she’s Seattle’s scream queen. When we see her on-screen she’s usually screaming, or covered in blood). Then there’s my other daughter who had her own punk rock band, is an artist in multiple disciplines, and works with the Girl Scouts of America. They have blessed me with a host of grandchildren, and I love these guys more than anything.

When I’m dealing with a psychopath and the psychopath attacks me, that’s one thing. But if he goes after these guys, my people? It’s a different thing. It’s on, like Donkey Kong.

Psychopathy is a spectrum. A psychopath on the left side of the spectrum is going to drive down the street, see a rodent crossing the road, and swerve toward it (bump, bump), and reward himself with a little giggle about doing so. On the other end, you ‘ve got people in the freezer.

It is a broad-spectrum, with any possibility between those two extremes. The people who I work with; are dealing with predatory psychopaths on the dark side of the spectrum, which are on the right side but a bit to the left of the extreme.

There is a lot of them, but there might not be as many as you might think. If you’ve been victimized y a psychopath, your friends probably have not. So, they have no frame of reference. They think you’re being ridiculous.

Just like, it took me fifteen years to find out there were people out there, like this. I didn’t run across any first-hand. I didn’t even know. You just do the best you can with what you have.

~David M Masters

Why Me?

The first question you ask when you’ve been victimized by a psychopath is, “Why me?”

Every victim wants to know why they got singled out, and targeted to be the victim in this scenario?

In my practice, when someone comes in who has been a victim, I’m as grateful as possible as this person has been honored with the position of being a psychopath victim. That sounds crazy, but anyone else besides this person could not have survived the attack by that psychopath. This is a very special person. This is somebody who has the wherewithal to make it, because anyone else? They would have taken their own life by now. It’s that serious.

When you’re in the muck and you’re covered in blood, you can’t see it. But you really are blessed by this, and there are so many other people out there who really need to get this information from you, because no matter how much school a person goes to, you cannot make that connection with a patient unless you’ve worn those shoes, and you know what it feels like.

When you tell your story of what happened to you, people are not going to be able to understand what you’re saying, if they don’t know what you’ve been through. It doesn’t make any sense. Nobody’s going to believe it’s true.

Psychopath Identification

First off, it’s a good idea to know if you’re really dealing with a psychopath. Who are they?

There are probably over a hundred attributes of psychopaths and I’ve narrowed it down to these six. If you find these six characteristics in one person, there’s a pretty good chance you’re dealing with a psychopath. And if it’s not a psychopath, it’s still a bad guy. Right? So, we’d take the same steps. No matter what type of toxic individual that might be.

  1. Charismatic

  2. Smart

  3. No Feelings

  4. Impulsive

  5. Winners

  6. Never Wrong

Not all psychopaths are bad. In fact, our government regularly recruits psychopaths to conduct activities and take on jobs that a normal person just could not do, yet these guys have unparalleled expertise in certain areas, where any pf the rest of us would be utterly useless.

It’s crazy, but apparently, we need these guys in our society, our government relies on them heavily.

So, there are places where they could use their powers for good, instead of evil.

Their impulsivity usually leads them down many roads of addiction. The psychopath seeks to get he maximum feeling out of every moment and the ways they get excited are varied, and chemical solutions to heightening awareness, sensitivity, and feelings of exhilaration abound.

There are also natural methods which give a psychopath an exhilarated feeling, such as simply stepping on an ant. They get a little thrill from that, but imagine how they would feel if they could do that to a real live person? Whoa! What a thrill they get, and they do it whenever they can.

Because psychopaths are winners, it’s impossible to negotiate with them. A successful negotiation will result in everyone getting what they want, or at least some concession(s). With these guy’ there’s no give and take, it’s only “winner takes all” and they are going to win no matter what.

If you try to negotiate or bargain with them, they will reach into their bag of dirty tricks and start turning everything you’ve said or done in the past, twist it up enough to be unrecognizable, weaponize it, and deploy it against you if any negotiation gets too resistant to the achievement of their goal(s).

Sometimes, we get one. We put them behind bars for a while. For predatory psychopaths of the criminal persuasion, this is little more than a parking ticket.

I was able to help put Richard behind bars, and to him it was a “no thing.” In fact, he said, “I can do five years on my head in a toilet.” Which is true. He continued to manipulate others and commit crimes outside of prison from within its walls, and worked his own brand of manipulation inside the walls, vacillating between acting as a “legal beagle.”

While there is “honor among thieves,” there is no honor among psychopaths. Inside he also operated as a “snitch,” rolling over on his contemporaries to build his “relationship” with staff. Everyone is a potential victim. He did so, in essence, to convince the warden that he was “one of them.” This earned him regular trips from population to solitary confinement during his stay for purposes of “protection.”

To psychopaths, detentions is like taking a coffee break, as the stigma which applies to you and me, does not apply to them. They do not have that intimidation, and they do not see incarceration as a “bad thing.” It is just an extension of their working environment.

Plus, imprisonment a great investment vehicle for the criminally minded, as they may only pay the price for one crime out of every fifty, they commit. While they are inside, they have full access to the State Law Library, and get to learn all the latest criminal technologies from other criminals while they are in there. It’s like an all-expenses-paid extended stay at a crime training boot camp.

There is no effective punishment for a predatory psychopath. You can (for the most part) separate them from society momentarily and impede their ability to victimize a greater number of individuals, but you cannot punish them or make them feel bad about their misdeeds.

They may, on the other hand, act remorseful and make persuasive appeals to counselors and parole boards, explaining how sorry they are, how they’ve had a change of heart, or found God. They will act very convincingly, even producing tears, willing to say anything if they think it will help sell their case, so they can return to the playground filled with unlimited opportunities for further victimization.

Never Wrong

Just try to correct one of these guys and see what happens. To them, it will always be someone else’s fault and if anyone was victimized, it was the psychopath, of course.

If you even try to assert that you were right about anything, and they were wrong, be forewarned that you will be subjecting yourself to a lengthy, detailed, exhaustive monologue about how incredibly wrong you are.

Let’s say you catch a psychopath in the act, and you try to explain the concept of theft to them. They cannot comprehend your point of view because they see the taking of someone else’s resources as a normal mode of operation. Thieves often explain that the act of thievery is a job. So, if they’ve stolen something, they have received the stolen items in exchange for conducting their work. Stealing is their job and the stolen items, or the money received from them, is their compensation.

“If they gave it to me, freely, and wanted it back? That would be one thing. I’d give it back.” But if they had to work for it, break-in, or otherwise swindle or con someone out of it, it’s rightfully theirs. They worked for it. That’s how they see it.

They don’t get it.

Different Kinds of Psychopaths

Just as there are all kinds of individuals, no two predatory psychopaths are the same, and some of them have specializations. They subscribe to a certain type of victimization which they have found works very well for them. While their crimes against others may vary, they will often share similar characteristics. Some examples are:

  • abusive psychopath
  • animal abuse psychopath
  • child abuse psychopath
  • con artist psychopath
  • controlling psychopath
  • criminal psychopath
  • educational psychopath
  • elder psychopath
  • embezzler psychopath
  • exploitative psychopath
  • financial psychopath
  • illicit substance psychopath
  • imposter psychopath
  • intimidation psychopath
  • leadership psychopath
  • lover psychopath
  • manipulative psychopath
  • masquerading psychopath
  • military psychopath
  • pathological liar psychopath
  • political psychopath
  • religious psychopath
  • romantic psychopath
  • serial killer psychopath
  • sexual psychopath
  • storyteller psychopath
  • thief psychopath
  • verbally abusive psychopa9th
  • violent psychopath
  • vulnerability psychopath

Interestingly in the State of Washington, where I reside, thanks to Richard and other predatory victimizers, there is a new State extension of law enforcement which focuses on the protection of vulnerable adults.

Predatory psychopaths are always on the lookout for fresh meat, so to speak, and elder adults who are not as sharp as they once were make excellent and easy prey. And, if they’re anything like Richard W Bennett, they will clean you out of everything you have, if given the chance.

Internet Weapons for Psychopaths

There is growing concern around the world about how predatory psychopaths use technology to run con games, manipulate and control people, and exert their revenge on their squirming victims. It is an issue that is very present in the minds of law enforcement and even at this advanced stage is still hard to get a handle on.

And it’s not just the psychopaths using these new technologies, it’s all kinds of predators, criminals, mentally unstable, and even pedophiles are using emerging technologies and social media to recruit, groom, and exploit their victims.

Catch Me If You Can

Have you ever seen the film, “Catch Me If You Can,” with Leonardo Di Caprio and Tom Hanks? I have been asked so many times if this film was about conman Richard W Bennett and Detective James Clarkson. While it is not the case, at all, many see the similarities between Di Caprio’s character, Frank Abagnale, and Bennett’s real-life exploits.

I haven’t said two words about him in public until now. I’ve never mentioned him.

Richard W Bennett

This is the guy that opened my eyes to the reality of psychopathy. I testified against him in a trial that led to his incarceration for elder abuse.

There was a vulnerable adult in our community who had been a newspaper carrier his whole life. This gentleman was well-known and revered throughout the community and we all gave him a nod of approval anytime we saw him delivering papers or collecting cans.

Even with his mental and emotional challenges, he had amassed a respectable retirement nest egg for himself to live out his elder years, which he was clearly in the midst of in his late-seventies.

Richard W Bennett (his name at the time) befriended this vulnerable adult, becoming his “best friend” and financial consultant, and proceeded to take him for everything he had, leaving him homeless and penniless. While Richard lived in the lap of luxury, buying exotic cars, and illicit drugs, living the high life, spending this sensitive man’s money as fast as he could.

That was when I met Richard, Detective James Clarkson, FBI Agent Joe Lurf, and subsequently testified for the State in the case against Bennett.

At that moment he declared war against me, and swore he would do anything he could, sparing no expense, to destroy me, my family, turning anyone I knew against me, and put me behind bars. His last words to me, made from a phone call from a holding cell at the County Jail, were, “You’re lucky right now, because it’s me inside here instead of you, but your days are numbered.”

I calmly replied, “You are hereby notified, never to contact me again. We are done here.” And I hung up the phone, while I heard him raise his voice and say, “Wait…” (click). I was done, but he had only begun.

He announced his death with the cooperation of his brother, Robert Paul Bennett, on October 12, 2015.

Victims of Psychopaths Event

If you’ve experienced trauma at the hands of a predatory psychopath, then you need to take action now to set yourself free from the terrorization of the psychopath who is abusing you.

It must stop now.

Once you have distanced yourself enough and have carved our safe and sacred space to do your deep inner work, healing can occur, and freedom is available to you.

I know there is little that is more unsettling than suffering at the hands of a predatory psychopath, sociopath, or toxic narcissist, but there is hope, and we are here for you.

It might be helpful for you to reach out to others who have “been there,” because no one who has not walked in the shoes of a victim of a psychopath could have any idea what is really going on.

You can attend an event, like this one (and you could attend remotely, by watching it on a Facebook Live stream).

VICTIMS OF PSYCHOPATHS

 

October 19th, 2019, Olympia Center

Admittance: FREE

FREE EVENT. Open to all victims of predatory psychopaths, sociopaths, or toxic narcissists. Take control of your life, stop the abuse and victimization. Disarm the predator, get your life back, and heal from the trauma from your psychopathic encounter.

Schedule of events:


Full Spectrum Victim Recovery

9:00 a.m.

Class Description: If you feel victimized by life, this attitude will continually create more experiences of victimization.

Mark and Lynetta will lead you through 3 interactive exercises to bust the victim game and reclaim your power. When you transcend Victim Games, you become Victorious in your life and begin the new game of empowered creation.

Instructors: Mark Siedler & Lynetta Avery


PTSD Recovery

9:45 AM a.m.

Class Description: We will learn what PTSD is, as well as signs and symptoms of PTSD in adults as well as children. We will explore some positive ways of coping with PTSD and its fears and anxiety.

Instructor: Wendy Lynn Johnson


Dealing with Toxic People

10:30 AM a.m.

Class Description: Toxic people are everywhere, and they’re here to stay. You may not be able to escape them completely, but there are simple tricks that you can use to overcome their toxic behavior. Learn how to come out on top in a confrontational situation without stooping to their level. Take steps to repel psychopaths at every level in your life. And develop the ability to set your life on the right foundation to stand tall above toxicity at every level.

Instructor: Daniel Mark Schwartz


How to Deal with a Psychopath

11:45 a.m.

Class Description: Predatory psychopaths are the most harmful members of society, and fortunately 90% of Americans never encounter the dark side of the psychopath who lives and operates on the dangerous end of the antisocial personality disorder spectrum. Often confused with the narcissistic sociopath, the predatory psychopath will drain the life, finances, and any other resources he or she may access, leaving the victim broken and broke. Early detection with a simple psychopath test, and protecting yourself right now can help.

Instructor: David M Masters


 

Event Location: Olympia Center, Rm 200, 222 Columbia St NW, Olympia, WA 98501

Visit St. Paul’s Free University for more information.

 

You may wonder why you would allow yourself to be victimized by such a cunning predator, or why “God” would allow this to happen to you.

The answer may be:

You were strong enough to endure the experience

and

You were called to help others who are suffering right now

And your unique experience qualifies you more than anyone else to help victims of psychopaths have hope of recovering from their loss and psychopathic trauma.

I am looking for people, just like you, to help others to heal from severe psychopathic abuse.

Please contact me if you would like to help others in the fight against the relentless abuse and trauma permeated by predatory psychopaths.